• May A

The Trap of Happiness

The happiness dictators - millennials. They grew up being told by their elders that the most important thing in life to achieve is happiness. They were told:

'Whatever makes you happy, chase it'

Make it your everyday job, your hobby, your life. If something doesn't make you happy, just quit it, life is too short.

Yet they wonder.....

They wonder why divorce rates are the highest since the invention of marriage. They wonder why millennials are the generation with the highest turnover of hopping between jobs. They move from one home to another, one career to another, one partner to another.

All in the name of happiness.

Does happiness come in the form of a nice home to you? [Lombard Street, SF]

It is true - happiness is important. If you are working in an environment that makes you absolutely miserable, you shouldn't be doing it. If you have a toxic person in your life hiding under the label of a friend or a partner, by all means, do quit them. That's a no-brainer.

But, what has caused confusion for millennials is that happiness, much like sadness, is a biological feeling that is instilled in our very animalistic minds in order for us to survive, thrive and continue to exist. It is not the aim of life.

The feelings instilled in us are signs that our bodies and spirits and not agreeing with something external.

Or does it come in the form of a fancy car?

Instead of quitting and chasing a feeling, which, like all other feelings, is temporary, we need to change the way we think. We need to dig deep in our minds and find out what our purpose in life is. Is it to help others in need? Is it to help a particular family member? Maybe it is to invent a new machine or to design beautiful garments.

Whatever may be causing you distress, don't just quit to chase happiness. Dig deep within your self and find out what your purpose is. If you don't get to the root of the problem, the likelihood is that the problem will continue to repeat itself.

And the last thing you should be doing is chasing the mirage of eternal happiness, it does not exist.